8 Rules Of Love

This book came to my attention when I saw it in the hands of the famous tennis star Sania Mirza in a Facebook post. I felt curious, and with that inquisitive feeling, I searched for it online and flipped through its pages. However, the thoughts and feelings it awakened in me were unexpected. This book became a profound influence on my beliefs and concept of love.

I realized that it isn’t right to keep this experience confined to myself; rather, it is essential to share these ideas with those who are distant from reading but wish to nurture their thoughts through articles or Facebook posts. This essay has been written for that purpose—to serve as a guiding light for them.

This study provided me with a new perspective on love, seeing it not as an emotional attachment but as a form of consciousness. It strongly emphasized that relationships are not merely about providing emotional support; rather, they are a journey of self-improvement and mutual growth. Many of us expect to complete ourselves through others, while the truth is that we should learn to become complete within ourselves. Self-awareness and emotional independence are the foundations that help form a strong and lasting relationship.

In relationships, we often complicate them under the burden of our expectations. Realism is essential in love. We need to stop trying to mold others according to our desires and instead accept God’s will and the principles of nature. God has created every individual uniquely and in accordance with their nature, and embracing this reality makes relationships easier and more enduring.

In the Holy Quran, Allah says, “And perhaps you dislike something while it is good for you.” (Al-Baqarah: 216)

This verse highlights that Allah’s will is far better than our own. Nature, which is God’s creation, never harms humanity; harm occurs when we stray from the path laid out by Allah due to our desires and poor decisions.

This study also taught me that relationships are a learning process, where each mistake serves as a lesson and every forgiveness is an opportunity. If we adopt a learning attitude towards each other in relationships and cultivate the skill of forgiving others, we can make our lives more meaningful. The importance of patience and gratitude in love cannot be overlooked, as these are the elements that teach us the skill of being content with Allah’s will.

I also noticed that many people lose their identity in relationships. It is essential to understand that love does not mean obliterating oneself but rather connecting with another while maintaining one’s individuality. When we recognize ourselves and retain our identity, we become more sincere and enduring in our relationships. Allah also advises us to focus on our self-improvement, as this process brings blessings not only to our lives but also to the lives of others.

Another point that became clear in my mind is that love is not just about being there for each other during joyful moments; it is equally vital to support one another during times of trial. The tests given by Allah serve as a means for human growth and reform, and enduring these trials together strengthens the bond of love.

Love is a continuous process of learning and growing, where we have the opportunity to learn something new at every moment. Allah has endowed us with both emotions and intellect so that we can consciously nurture our relationships. When we prioritize Allah’s pleasure in our relationships, only then can we establish healthy and meaningful connections.

This experience presented me with a new concept of love and taught me that the journey of love is not merely a dream but a reality that can be consciously embraced. I have written this essay with the intention that those who are distanced from reading can also be inspired by these ideas and bring about positive change in their lives. By accepting Allah’s will, adopting realism in our relationships, and working on ourselves, we can improve our lives and the lives of others.

This is the conscious journey of love, where by embracing Allah’s will, understanding ourselves, and nurturing our relationships, we can cultivate peace and happiness in our lives.